Pickup101 Review

March 15th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

There are two main philosophies for teaching pickup. One, led largely by David DeAngelo and Real Social Dynamics, is all about the theory. They make programs for someone who’s thrilled if they walk away from a seminar with a few good tips … and two or three interesting books to read.

The other is focused on the practical. This is, after all, how the original bootcamps started. Mystery and his first instructors would watch their students in the field, and correct them. No long discussions about evolutionary psychology. No abstract philosophizing about man’s “dark side.” Just a simple, “No, go here, say this, stand like that. Boom.”

As you might guess from their name, Pickup101.com is firmly in the second camp. They approach pickup with a bravura style and a giant dose of don’t-give-a-fuck (even bragging on their website of stealing a few students out from a David DeAngelo seminar to teach them some practical tips in three hours.)

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There is something immensely appealing about this approach. Now, don’t get me wrong, I really like the theory. I think it’s fascinating, and I love learning to apply abstract concepts. But that’s me – not everyone. And heck, sometimes when you say “Hey, I’m struggling in this area, can you help me?” you don’t want a long discussion on inner game, or a dense analysis of cutting-edge scientific theories. You just want to know what to say.

If that’s how you feel, then Pickup101.com might be the right choice for you.

They offer workshops – priced on the low end of industry norms – focusing on basics and on day game. They want you on your feet and approaching women. You won’t be sitting in a chair listening to a lecture with these guys, no – you’ll be out there confronting your fears head on, and learning by doing.

This trend continues through their packaged material. No theory, just “Charismatic Conversations” and “Physical Confidence” – DVD and audio programs with specific, direct focuses. “Dress For Success,” “Fearless First Impressions” – each of this school’s programs pick a single, specific topic and focus on it like a laser. Most of these programs take the common approach of a being a filmed lecture in front of a select audience, and the speakers are consistently well-prepared and engaging. Lecture series are mostly available on either CD or DVD, depending on which you prefer.

Another one of their popular programs is “Spy-Cam Seductions.” No, get your head out of the gutter, this isn’t pornography. Rather, in line with their other lessons, it’s simply a practical demonstration of their lessons. Again, practice, not theory.

There is a ton of good material here. The only possible downside is that the laser-like focus on specific areas means that you can sometimes struggle to get a broader overview. If you like this material – and a lot of people will like it because of it’s practical hands-on approach – you may end up buying lots and lots of material from them. But if it works, that’s really not such a bad thing, is it?

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DHV Routines

February 12th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

One of the most powerful tools in your PUA arsenal is the interactive value demonstration: you telling a story which requires the girl’s participation, that demonstrates value while giving you the opportunity to display your personality.

These can take many forms. Most simple magic tricks will work. Learning a couple of slight-of-hand tricks or a good card trick can work wonders, and is definitely worth the effort it will take to master. (Expect to spend 2-3 hours in front of a mirror, at least, to get a good slight-of-hand trick to work).

But interactive value demonstrations can take many different forms. Here are some examples:

Tarot cards work great. It may take several hours to get comfortable enough with the deck to be able to deliver, but being able to have the girl ask a question and pick a single card can make for a great quick demonstration of value. You’re also setting up a great D2: “Why don’t we get together so I can give you a full reading?” The so-called Rider-Waite deck is often easiest for beginners to learn. “The Tarot Bible” by Sarah Bartlett is a good first book on Tarot; Rachel Pollack’s “Seventy-Eight Degrees of Wisdom” is good if you want to dive deeper and make this one of your primary tools.

Aura readings are another useful pickup tool. Lots of mystical stuff works, but you really shouldn’t try to fake it – get a good book on auras so you know what you’re experiencing, and lead her through it. Girls tend to really enjoy that kind of stuff, but they will sense if you are faking.

Learning to play an instrument is great. Get her to participate by singing along. (Give her a harmony part so you can tease her if she misses a note – but generally praise her. People are very self-conscious about their singing). Obviously you can’t take a guitar to a club, but if you’re in a place with a piano and know how to play, that’s gold!

The Cube is a great value demonstration. The basics of the cube are simple. You tell the girl to envision a cube, and describe it. Have her describe the space the cube is in. Then have her add a ladder to the mental image, and describe it. Now have her add flowers. How many are there, and where are they? Have her add and describe a horse. Lastly, have her add a storm – where is it, what does it look like.

Now you walk her through the interpretation. The cube represents her vision of herself. Is it big or small? That’s her self image. Transparent or opaque? That’s how guarded she is. Make further connections between these qualities and her view of herself and her personality – there are too many possibilities to list them all. Use the cold-reading techniques to find areas where she says yes.

The ladder represents her aspirations for her career. Is it big? Close to the cube or distant? Stable or dangerous? The flowers represent her friends – are they abundant and close, few and far away, etc? The horse is her ideal partner. (One good joke here is to mention that someone else you did it for come up with a unicorn: that is, her real partner was a fantasy creature.). And the storm represents her challenges and problems and how they affect her. Does she keep them distant? Are they constant all around her? Are they overwhelming or rather small and pleasant? Like with any cold read, focus on the positive.

Much of the cube is in the delivery. Style is a master of this routine, and I encourage you to google to find a video of style delivering it (there’s at least one excellent example on youtube of him delivering and teaching it) and notice how he connects with his target, and how he teases the target and keeps it playful. Remember that the purpose of a routine like the cube or a tarot reading isn’t so much the read itself as it is the connection and vibe you create while delivering it. Think of these as cover to keep the girl entertained while showing off your personality, and, yeah, being accurate will give you a nice extra bit of value, too.

Another great routine of this kind is called “eliciting values.” This is another excellent one from Style. It consists of three questions. The first is “What is one thing you want to have in your life that makes life worthwhile.” She’ll give you an answer. You then ask her, repeating her exact words, “When you have in your life, what does that allow you to do?” Then you ask a third question, “When you have in your life, and it enables you to do ,” (again, use her words as closely as you can) “how does that make you feel inside?”

When she processes the third question, she’ll usually smile, and then struggle to articulate the feeling she has. Point out that core feeling of absolute happiness is her real goal, and show how she doesn’t need what she thought he needed for it, she already has it inside her. (Style will often tease his target here, saying “we just achieved your life goal in five minutes.”)

Don’t be shy about these. Say, “So I have this little personality test I like to do. It’s a really fun way to get to know someone. Would you like to give it a try?” If you’ve got any sort of positive vibe going, she’ll say yes. As added bonus, you’ll always learn a tremendous amount about the target while doing these. They work really well once you’ve spent 10-15 minutes with a target, and she’s interested in getting to know you better.

It’s also worthwhile to have a couple of silly or fun interactive value demonstrations. Two easy ones involve a ballpoint pen. The first is the “Pen 15” club. When a girl does something clever, you reward her by telling her that she just entered the “Pen 15” club, and you write “Pen 15” on her hand with a ballpoint pen. Then you wait to see how long it takes for her to realize you just wrote something that basically looks like “Penis” on her hand.

Another fun one is the “mouse race.” You say, “there are three mice, and they had a race. One was blind, one was dumb, and one was deaf. They’re going to go until you say stop.” So then you draw a dot on her arm, “This is the blind mouse, say stop,” so then you start drawing a line down her arm until she says stop. Then you repeat this with the dumb mouse. Lastly, you repeat it a third time with the deaf mouse … but when she says “stop”, you keep going. And she’ll say “stop, stop, stop!” and finally you’ll look at her funny, and point out that this mouse is deaf.

These last two are very silly, but they convey a lot of value because you’re demonstrating how you’re not afraid of offending her, you have a lot of confidence, and, oh yeah, you’re getting some basic kino in, too.

As a rule of thumb you want to have one fun/silly interactive value demonstration in your arsenal, and one more serious/deep one. If you have too many, not only will you choke up figuring out what to apply, but you run the risk of falling into dancing monkey syndrome: you’re being a clown, an entertainer, and while women may like clowns, they don’t sleep with them. I would never do both the mouse race and the “pen 15” club because at a certain point it’s just juvenile – but one is silly and fun. Similarly, eliciting values and the cube may overlap too much. It’s okay to do one on D1 and one on D2, but don’t do them both in the same night. Once you get these down, though, you’ll be tempted to, because they’re very powerful.

Put some of these tools in your routine stack, and watch what happens to your results.

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Kino Tricks

February 12th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

If you’ve read our earlier article on kino, you know it’s one of the most important aspects of game. Before continuing with this article, I’d advise you to re-read that one, because it contains fundamentals which you absolutely must understand before trying to apply this material. Applying these tricks without understanding two-steps-forward, one-step-back is likely to backfire.

As you gain experience, the material in this post will become less necessary. Nevertheless, when starting out, many aspiring PUAs feel the need for guidelines and tips to help them with their kino. The following routines and ideas may, therefore, be useful.

When hugging a girl to say hello, break the hug, and let your hands rest on her hips for a second while looking in her eyes. This can set a much more sensual intention for the rest of your interaction with her.

Palm reading is a good kino-building pattern. Put an hour or two of research in to get the basics down, and hold her palm lightly while you read it, tracing the lines on her palm with your fingertip. But when you’re done, be the one to break contact!

If she says something clever, go for a high-five. Make contact, hold her hand after the high five, and bring it down with your hands holding … then release.

The trust test is another good kino-builder. Ask her if she trusts you. If she says yes, say, okay, let’s do the trust test. Take her hands. Squeeze them lightly – if she squeezes back, she passes. Then lower your hands – if she lowers hers, she passes. Then make sure to let go of her hands – be the one to break the contact.

All of those work early in a set to establish a kino-heavy frame. Once you’re more isolated, the evolution phase shift is a useful routine. This one comes from Style. Notice how she smells, compliment her on the smell, and say something like: “You smell nice. Lots of people don’t pay attention to smells, but we’re still animals, and you’ll notice that animals, when they meet, or before they mate, always smell each other. It’s part of our evolution.” You can use this moment to lean in, brush her hair back, and smell her neck, creating some very powerful kino.

“This is why we like having our hair pulled, in the right way. How different is this from what lions do, biting each other’s manes?” Here you reach your hand into her hair, just above the back of the neck, and gently pull. It’s not a yank, and it shouldn’t hurt. It’s a firm, commanding pull.

The routine continues something like:

“The most sensitive places on the body are often places that don’t get much contact with air or light, like the inside of the elbow.” (Touch her there) “Or the crook of your neck,” (touch her there). These touches should be light, fleeting strokes. Then go on:

“One of the best feelings is to be bit right here,” point to your own neck. “Obviously, because the jugular is exposed, and lots of sexual fantasies involve dominance and submission. Go ahead, bite me.” If she’s into it, she will. This is incredibly powerful because you’re creating very intimate kino, but she’s actually making it happen. If she resists, punish for a second by turning away, then repeat the instruction, “Go ahead.”

Usually, her bite won’t be very good, so you tease her for having a lame bite and show her how to do it. This is important: you aren’t biting like you want to hurt her. A proper bite in this situation is a gentle pinch, where you take a big chunk of skin and gently slide your teeth over it until her skin slips out from between them. Practice on yourself until you get it right. So show her how to do it, then invite her to do it to you again. After she does, she’s usually ready for a kiss.

This routine can be broken up. You can use little pieces of it. You can bite on the inside of the arm rather than the neck. Take it and make it your own – you shouldn’t feel like you’re just spouting lines from a web page.

Lastly, Mystery came up with a very useful kiss-close. I’m not the biggest advocate of kiss-closes -I think you do best when you learn to just sense the moment and go for it. But while you’re learning, they can be a useful tool. The Mystery kiss-close is simple. You ask, “Would you like to kiss me?” If she says yes, you kiss her. If she says no, you say, “Well, I didn’t say you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind.”

Then smile and change the subject (and do not assume you can’t try again later!) But most of the time, if you’ve been running good kino and she’s turned on, she’ll say, “Maybe,” or “I don’t know,” or something hedged like that.

Then you can just say. “Let’s find out,” and kiss her. Remember to be the one to break the kiss!

One very important warning. Lots of people on the PUA bulletin boards offer “tricky” kiss-closes, where a girl commits to something only to discover that you’re “stealing” a kiss. I do not recommend these. The problem is simple: You want a girl to want you to kiss her. You want to create moments of anticipation. The last thing you want is a girl to feel like you tricked her into escalating with you, because then she’s likely to put up bigger walls, making it harder for you to escalate in the future. You’ve demonstrated that she can’t trust you.

Instead, you’ll notice how all these routines hinge on her active participation. Make her complicit in her own seduction. Start incorporating these kino tricks into your game, and watch your results improve!

Cold Reading

February 12th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

Cold-reading is a popular pick up artist trick. It can be a fun demonstration of value, and earn you a lot of goodwill from your target. But if you ask about cold-reading on a lot of the PUA bulletin boards, you’ll lots of bad advice – about making very generic guesses based on someone’s age, race, etc. Read on for three basic cold-reading fundamentals that actually work.

The first trick to cold reading is to actually look at your target, and notice what you see. It’s amazing how much information most people give off without realizing it – but most of the time we don’t even look. Therefore, make a habit of looking. Practice on people you aren’t talking to. Notice clothes, shoes, jewelry. Notice hairstyle (did she put a lot of time into it?).

I can’t generalize about what all this means – there are too many possibilities. But if you make a habit of looking, and then you put together what you see with what you know or discover about people, you’ll become an expert in cold reading over time.

Another great trick comes from Kenton Knepper’s “Completely Cold”. The idea is simple. You offer someone an observation about themselves. If they agree, you say, “Yes, and …” and offer a second observation. If they hedge and say maybe, turn that maybe into a yes by saying, “Yes, but …” and then making a connection. It’s amazing how well you can lead people like this. You never respond to a “no” from her with a “no,” yourself – always with a “yes, but.” For example:

PUA: “I feel like you spend a lot of time worrying about relationships.”
Target: “Not really.”
PUA: “Yes, but you know that there are many different types of relationships. We have a relationship with money,” (no reaction) “We have a relationship with our body and health.”
Target: “Yes, I totally stress about my body too much! How could you tell?”

The use of so-called “awareness words” can help, as well. Notice the use of “you know” in the response, above. Words like “see,” “notice,” and “know” make it easier for your target to agree with you. This technique is extremely powerful and Knepper’s book has some great practical examples.

Lastly, there’s a set of cold reads that are almost cheating. They involve praising the woman, then pointing out how the opposite of that compliment is hidden inside her. For example, “You look confident, but I can tell you sometimes have a lot of self doubt.” “You’re very outgoing, but I’ll bet you get really shy sometimes,” or something like that. These work because the “hidden” quality is something that applies to everyone. Everyone has some self doubt, everyone has moments of shyness.

And, of course, if a woman rejects this approach, you can just fall back on Knepper’s technique and say, “Yes, but …”

One key to all cold-reading: focus on the positive. Everybody would rather hear positive things about themselves than the negative, so whenever you have the chance, spin things in a positive direction. That’ll get her saying “yes” to you move often.

This is a lot of fun and very easy to apply to your pickup technique. Start practicing it today.

Freeze Outs

February 12th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

Freeze-outs are one of the most powerful, but hardest to apply, weapons in your PUA arsenal. There are times when applying them is going to require balls of steel. Nevertheless, they are a very important – sometimes necessary – tool, and if you don’t learn how to judiciously apply them, your results will not be as good as they could be.

There are two primary types of freeze-out. There is a freeze-out when a girl is not being sufficiently responsive to your attempts to set up a day two, and there is a freeze-out used to bust last-minute resistance. We will address both of these separately.

When a girl is not being responsive to your attempts to set up a D2, you must take a big step back. You need to not call her, text her, email her, “like” her status on facebook, or anything along those lines. The best thing you can do is to just go ahead and live your life. (This is a good reason to have more than one girl at a time that you’re gaming – this way you can find easy ways to be busy, and not call the non-responsive target).

It is very important that, if she ever gets in touch with you, or if you run into each other, or if you call her again a few weeks later and actually talk to her, that you do not make her feel bad for not getting back to you. If you guilt-trip her in any way, you will undercut the power of your freeze-out. Instead, your frame must always be that you barely noticed that she hadn’t gotten back to you.

If she apologizes unprompted, that’s a good sign, but brush it off like you didn’t even notice.

LMR-busting freeze-outs are harder. Every fiber of your being will tell you not to use this technique – until you experience it’s power. It’s really simple. At some points during kino escalation – often when you go to take off her underwear, but at other times, too – she’ll make you stop. This is “last-minute resistance” – a very common problem based on a fear women have before having sex with someone for the first time.

For most of our history, sex meant pregnancy, and pregnancy carried a non-trivial risk of death (about 1 in 1000 as recently as a hundred years ago). Even if she survived pregnancy, she would be basically helpless for over a year, requiring you to provide for her. In those circumstances, women naturally experience a fear that is similar to, but many times stronger than, what we feel before approaching a woman. Evolution hasn’t caught up to birth control and modern medicine yet.

If you’re practicing good kino escalation – two steps forward and one step back – usually you can advance again in a few minutes, and get around LMR that way. However, sometimes, she’ll make it clear that she’s not having it.

This is where you really need balls of steel. What you simply do is stop making out with her. Maybe you check your email. Or pick up a book and start browsing. However, it’s very important that you do not seem bitter, angry, or disappointed. If she questions you about your behavior, you must be very clear with your response. The slightest bit of petulance will be a major DLV.

Instead, you are unaffected, but you simply tell her that your arousal circuitry really only works in the on- or off- position. You just don’t enjoy the feeling of going halfway, so you’d rather stop things. Maybe give her a light peck on the cheek to show you aren’t upset with her. Then you lean back and let her come to you. If you manage it right, she usually will.

It’s very hard to walk away from a girl mid-makeout, but that’s where the power of this technique comes from. You can bet most other guys haven’t done this with her.

Try it next time you face some last-minute resistance – and watch the results.

Fluff Talk

February 12th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

A certain amount of a set is “fluff talk” – small talk, your basic getting-to-know-you conversation. This is an important and unavoidable part of comfort building, and it happens in every set. However, a lot of guys don’t get the most out of this part of the game, letting attraction fade. Read on for some fundamental advice to help you keep the set moving forward while engaging in fluff talk.

Future projections” are a great tool to use during fluff talk. A future projection is any time you get a girl to talk about an imaginary, positive future. Because women often feel emotions stronger than we do, having them imagine positive future situations that involve them causes your value in their eyes to skyrocket.

Talk about trips she’d like to take, talk about her dream job, talk about anything exciting she might have in her future. Focus on the positive, and write yourself into the story: if her dream is to go visit the greek islands, talk about how you imagine it must feel to swim in warm Mediterranean waters, and how the two of you could rent a yacht.

One of biggest benefits of this is that it’s not boring. You should always strive to avoid “the interview” – where you ask questions with simple, literal answers that she’s probably answered a thousand times: “What’s your job? What’s your major? Do you have brothers and sisters?”

There are three good ways to avoid the interview. The first is called “question into statement.” It’s pretty simple. You take a question you’d like to know the answer to, and instead of asking her, you make a guess as to what the answer, and you tell her. For example, “I bet you’re a psych major.” Not only do you get major points if you guess right, but even if you guess wrong, you’ve launched the conversation in an interesting and compelling direction. “No, I do bio. Why’d you think psych?” and then you do a cold read, or you just ask a followup question. Don’t be afraid of guessing wrong – the confidence you display by having a guess more than makes up for it.

The second way to avoid the interview is to ask more playful variants of interview-type questions. For example, instead of asking, “What do you do for a living?” you might ask, “When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?” (You could also combine these two techniques: “I bet you wanted to grow up to be a doctor when you were a kid.” This can be followed up with nicely teasing. If she asks you how you knew, play with her. “Well, you clearly think you know what’s best for everyone!”)

The third way to avoid the interview is to ask deeper versions of the standard questions. For example, “What’s your favorite part of your job?” The focus here is not on the nuts-and-bolts of what she does for a living, but rather getting her to feel the positive emotions she associates with her job. The more specific and unique the questions you can ask, the better you’ll do. Listen carefully to her answer, and ask an insightful follow-up question!

With these techniques, always be on the lookout for an waves of positive emotions – buying temperature spikes – and use them as a chance to escalate your kino.

Add these elements to your fluff talk, and watch your results improve!

Cocky Funny

February 7th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

Cocky and Funny, or C/F for short, is a style of pickup developed by David DeAngelo. For many years it was the core of his system, and it still plays a large role in what he teaches, although he’s broadened his approach in recent years.

Nevertheless, cocky/funny is an incredibly powerful tool used to generate large amounts of attraction with women. The idea is to keep a woman off-balance while simultaneously hitting all of her attraction switches related to confidence. You stay unpredictable, fun, and challenging.

The key to cocky/funny pickup is to be both cocky and funny, simultaneously. It is not about being cocky one minute and funny the next, it is about being both, all the time. Many guys who experiment with c/f material struggle because they alternate. If you’re just being funny, you’re being a clown – and women may like clowns, but they don’t sleep with them. If you’re just being cocky, you’re being a jerk.

Signs of effective cocky/funny material are a woman hitting you while laughing, or smiling while saying, “I can’t believe you just said that!”

Good examples of cocky-funny lines are: “I realize you’re probably shy because you get no attention from men whatsoever, so I decided to come over and pay attention to you.” Or, if she says something clever, say, “Congratulations, that’s 5 points right there – and you needed them since you were at -16 before.”

But more than a series of lines, cocky/funny is an attitude – it’s an attitude that says you don’t take anything she says or does too seriously. It means never giving her questions a straight answer, and never giving her a moment to catch up. If she asks you what you do, you come up with the most absurd thing that you can think of, and deliver it with a straight face. Be a lion tamer. Be an astronaut. Being cocky and funny means being willing to run with whatever pops into your head.

Often a woman will challenge you after you say something cocky and funny, to see if you’ll pull back, say you were just kidding, or make some other display of weakness. If she seems shocked, don’t apologize, rather, just look her evenly in the eyes and say, “Yeah, I said it.” And smile.

Other aspects of cocky/funny include:

The “I’m messing with you,” vibe. The whole concept of teasing is connected to cocky/funny. But think about how you relate to your friends, how you might just say absurd things as if they were completely true. How absurd a story can you get her to buy?

Speaking the unspoken. This is a very powerful tool. Call direct attention to the subtext. For example, if she’s hitting you, being fake-mad the way women tend to do when you’ve done cocky/funny material, just call her on it. “Oh, you like me. Look at you, hitting me like you’re a 3rd grader.” Any time she’s engaging in behavior which suggests she’s into you, point it out and tease her about it.

Add these tools to your toolbox, and you’ll find yourself generating more and more attraction.

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Push Pull

February 7th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

We’ve all had the experience of chasing a girl – and we all know how that ends. When you chase someone, you just get them to run away faster. Chasing doesn’t work because chasing subcommunicates lower value: if you’re chasing her, that must mean she’s higher value than you, otherwise she would be chasing you.

On the other hand, you can’t refuse to chase, either. Women expect men to take the lead in dating, and unless her attraction level for you is through the roof, waiting for her is really just giving other guys an opportunity to swoop in ahead of you. While you’re not calling, or escalating … they are. And if they’re attractive, well, she’s not going to wait on you.

Fortunately, there’s is a solution to this catch-22, and that solution is push pull routines. You remain unpredictable, and refuse to fall into a “courting” frame. On the other hand, you continue to provide opportunities for her to spend time with you, you continue to provide her with good emotions, and you continue to escalate kino.

We’ve already seen some examples of PUA push-pull in other articles so far. For example, when you call a girl for the first time, and you don’t ask her out, and you get off the phone first, you are practicing push-pull. She is receiving mixed messages: “He seems to like me, he seems to enjoy my company, but he didn’t ask me out. Why didn’t he ask me out?” Or when you invite a girl to a group activity: on one hand, you’re asking her out, but on the other it doesn’t feel like a date, so she doesn’t know where she stands.

Conversationally, it’s often good to keep this dynamic going. If you praise her for something (which you should do, often!) make sure you deflate her a little, too. It’s okay if this is playful, and a little goes a long way.

WIth kino, two-steps-forward, one-step-back is a form of push-pull. Being the one to stop kissing is incredibly powerful. (One great technique is to start kissing her in a location where you can’t go very far … so you’re the one to stop it.) Women are so used to men trying to get every inch of physical affection they can that when you stop things, they’ll often have a powerful surge demanding more. You can use the control you have over her physical reactions in this way as a springboard for cocky humor, as well.

Learning to calibrate how much push goes with how much pull takes time and experience. Try to develop a feel for when you’re leaning forward, and when she is. A little attention can go a long way, and you’ll probably start to pick it up pretty quickly. If this is new to you, don’t be afraid to push a little harder than you’re used to. WIth your value high, she’ll come back around. In fact, while you’re learning, if you never push hard enough to get a negative reaction, you’re probably pulling too much and not pushing enough. Get out of your comfort zone and you’ll probably discover that you have much more latitude than you think you do.

Good luck!

ESP Routines

February 7th, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

Routines based on extra-sensory perception can be lots of fun. They’re a great way to keep things lighthearted and amusing while demonstrating value. The key is to have fun with them, and never take them too seriously.

One of the simplest ESP tricks is to simply say. “Okay, think of a number from one to four.” You lead the target towards saying “three” by spacing out the key words: “Think of a number from one … two … “ snap your fingers here, “… four.” Very few people won’t say “three” here because their brains try to complete the sequence.

(This sort of leading is much more effective than just relying on the tendency of people to pick 3 and 7 when asked to guess a number.)

Another fun trick involves getting your target to write down something on a piece of paper, which you then “read” despite it being closed. One fun one with a small group is to have everyone right down a number on a blank, identical scrap of paper, then fold it in half. You then go around the circle, guessing everyone’s number.

The trick to this one is simple: you guess a number, read a paper, guess a number, read a paper … but you read every paper before you guess that number. Pulling this sort of trick off requires enough slight of hand to switch papers without being seen. Lots of examples of this sort of trick can be found in “Practical Mental Magic,” by Theodore Anneman.

Another fun one is to set up a girl by saying, “Okay, I can read your mind. Think of a number between one and ten. Now multiply it by nine. Now add the digits together, and subtract five.” (If she struggles with the math, tease her). “Okay, now pick a country that begins with that letter of the alphabet – for example, if your number is two, you might pick Boliva, because B is the second letter of the alphabet.” (If she struggles to come up with a country, tease her about her sense of geography). “Okay now. pick an animal which has a name which begins with the last letter of that country’s name. Lastly, think of a color that begins with the last letter of the animals name.”

Once she’s done all this, turn to her and say, “You’re thinking of an orange kangaroo from Denmark.” You can then tease her because Kangaroos aren’t orange, and they don’t come from Denmark.

(This one works because the math always comes out to four, and there just aren’t that many countries that have a name beginning with D. Maybe don’t try this on someone from the Dominican Republic, however).

One thing to remember is that if your ESP routine doesn’t work, you can still laugh it off. “Oh, see, that just goes to show there’s no such thing as ESP.”

A couple of caveats, however. It’s important to avoid “dancing monkey syndrome” – where you’re just performing tricks to entertain her set. Do one of these tricks, at most, per set. And never do one of these tricks a second time – they’ll figure it out very quickly.

And have fun with it!

DHV Stories

February 3rd, 2011 by Dev Ops Leave a Comment

One of the things many aspiring PUA’s need to learn about is how to talk about themselves positively, in a way that builds attraction. This has been codified as the “DHV (demonstration of higher value) story”: a prepared story you tell which has embedded DHV triggers to help build attraction.

Personally, I feel the whole idea of a DHV story is somewhat overblown. Women respond more to behavioral cues than verbal ones – acting like a high value man is more important than telling stories of your exploits. Furthermore, it’s important not to come off as bragging – if the DHV spikes in your story don’t feel natural, you’re going to do more harm than good.

Nevertheless, most aspiring PUAs mess up by being too passive and self-effacing. You should be able to tell stories about yourself, and you should be able to embed little DHV spikes into every story you tell. And of equal importance, you need to be aware of the ways in which the stories you tell reinforce or damage your value.

For example, if you are talking about an ex, and you describe her negatively, what is that saying about you? That you somebody who lets himself get tied down to low-value women, and therefore must not be too high-value yourself. Better is to praise the women you were with.

For example, recently I was in a large set where we were all talking about the last time we had great sex. Rather than just focus on the freaky aspects of it, I talked about how powerful our connection was. (This subcomunicates that I have enough sex to not be blown away merely by the in-and-out mechanics of it).

I then talked about how we always seemed to kiss or touch each other exactly the way we wanted to be kissed or touched. (This subcommunicates that I understand women’s physical experience of sex).

Lastly I praised many of her qualities outside the bedroom, describing her (truthfully) as an “ivy-league-educated former model.” (This isn’t even subcommunicaiton. I’m hitting preselection hard.)

By the time I finished, two of the girls in the set were giving me the doggie-dinner-bowl look, and one asked me, “What happened?” So I told her truthfully that my career demanded I be on one coast while her career demanded she be on the other, so we decided we had to let each other go. (Subcommuicating emotional maturity, and the ability to have adult relationships.)

Never in the conversation did I praise myself directly – but the story itself demonstrated a tremendous amount of value to all the women present, merely by praising a woman I was with. It also worked so well because it came up naturally in the course of the conversation. If I had forced it by saying, “let me tell you about this former model I was dating who I had great sex with” it would have felt like I was bragging, and they wouldn’t have believed a word coming out of my mouth even though it was all true.

Lastly, there’s a very important trap to avoid: self-deprecating humor and false modesty. A lot of guys get themselves into trouble by making jokes at their own expense, or being so afraid of bragging that they constantly put themselves down.

Don’t do this. Be willing to celebrate your own accomplishments, and never shy away from talking about them if they naturally come up in conversation. And when you have the opportunity to get a laugh by putting yourself down, don’t! Take that self-deprecating joke and turn it around, turn it into a self-aggrandizing joke. It may be a small change, but it will pay real results!

Good gaming!